Couples & Erotica: Cranking Up the Heat in the Boudoir

~By Andee Harris, co-founder of Bedroom Chemist

The mere mention of pornography may conjure up seedy back-alley shops filled with smoke. It’s enough to make otherwise open-minded ladies stay as far away as possible. And, hey, we get it. For decades, pornography has been a male-dominated industry serving the fantasies of men and men alone.

So it might surprise you to learn that the porn industry has finally realized that alienating slightly more than half the population isn’t such a great idea. It’s starting to see that “erotica” (as we ladies prefer to call it) can serve an important role in helping couples fulfill their sexiest fantasies.

Have we piqued your interest? Here are some suggestions for exploring the world of sensual couples’ erotica:

Different Strokes

Sensual erotica includes not just sex tapes, but all types of media. We’re not just talking video images, but erotic pictures, music, and even literature (ahem, 50 Shades of Grey). You’re now free to add spice using all your senses.

We’re all turned on by different things, and there’s just no getting around the fact that many of these differences are gender-specific. We all know men like to like what they see. Erotic videos and photos are almost guaranteed to stimulate a response in men, and so it isn’t exactly a surprise that sperm donation centers are full of magazines.

Women, on the other hand, respond more to mental stimuli and storytelling. Whether written or spoken, the right words can prove highly arousing to women. Keeping these differences in mind, couples should consider a mix of erotica media to satisfy and stimulate both partners.

It Takes Two

Couples should think of erotica as a fun addition to their relationship, one to be shared and enjoyed. Watching it together, reading it aloud to each other, or even shopping for erotic toys together can prove a mutually pleasurable experience, one that can get your engines revved and juices flowing.

Any decisions regarding use of erotica in your relationship should be mutual. At first, just mentioning the topic may feel awkward, so try testing the waters with a more mainstream video or reading to each other from an explicit book.

Ready to Dive In?

Once you’ve made a mutual decision to add erotica to your relationship, where should you shop? No longer relegated to tawdry porn shops, erotica is available in any number of online outlets. Sites like FreddyAndEddy.com are geared toward couples. Many titles in various formats, including books and CDs, are also available at sites like Amazon.com. Our personal favorites are Candida Royalle’s The Bridal Shower and Eyes of Desire. And being bedroom chemists ourselves, we can’t help but love Tristen Taormino’s reality porn Chemistry Series, which is always a big hit with couples.

Couples erotica can be a great way to celebrate and enhance what happens between the sheets. When pursued openly as a couple, erotica can be a pleasurable and stimulating way to increase mutual enjoyment for years to come.

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One Response to “Couples & Erotica: Cranking Up the Heat in the Boudoir”

  1. On March 14, 2013 at 8:43 pm Freddy and Eddy (Ian and Alicia Denchasy) responded with... #

    Thanks so much for the mention! We will definitely link back to your wonderful site!

    Ian and Alicia
    (aka Freddy and Eddy)

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