Good Vibrations: Why You Need a Vibrator

~By Cheryl Sloane, co-owner, g boutique

So you’re having the sex conversation with your girlfriends and someone says, “Me, buy a vibrator? Why would I need one? I have a husband.” Uh oh! You now feel 1. compelled to explain how great sex is with your husband and 2. obligated, in the name of sisterhood, to get this lady a vibe.

Even if you have a mind-blowing sex life with a rock star partner, you still owe yourself a vibrator. Here are just a few reasons why:

* Sex studies show that women who use vibrators experience higher levels of desire and arousal.

* Guys love to know what excites you. The more guidance you can give your guy, the better.

* Playing with toys together adds a new dimension to your relationship.

* With a vibrator, there’s no need for frustration if your working, parenting, or sex schedules don’t always match up. Your guy will admire your strength and perseverance, so know how to take care of yourself!

You now have your girlfriend convinced she needs to get herself a vibrator. The only question is which kind to buy. Here’s the good news. The sex toy industry has evolved dramatically over the last 10 years, and quality has moved up several notches, largely in response to the growth in women-owned boutiques. Companies like Fun Factory, Lelo, and Jimmy Jane are leading the pack with great design, sophisticated mechanics, and full-on function.

Hitting the G-Spot

It’s tempting to stick with external stimulation for your first vibrator purchase. After all, it’s easy, relatively quick, and works for 99 percent of us. A little vibration on your clitoris at the end of a busy day is a lovely way to say goodnight. Try JIMMYJANE’s Form 2 Vibe for an endless array of external bliss or Fun Factory’s laya spot for variety with a little lower price tag.

When you’re ready to brave the journey to your G-spot, make sure to choose something with a nice curve, like Lelo’s Gigi or Mona, and give yourself plenty of practice time to experiment. Discovering your favorite way to achieve an internal orgasm is like finding your favorite flavor of ice cream. You’ll just want more and more.

Ever felt like you really, really had to pee during sex but then when you tried there was nothing? That was your G-spot. When the G-spot gets stimulated, it actually grows and puts pressure on the bladder. So work through that feeling and your G-spot will take you to orgasm country. Don’t forget to share your knowledge with your partner and help him to guide you to ecstasy. (Hint: His fingers can make that same magical curve as your vibe. Tell him to pretend that he’s saying “come here” with his fingers.)

If you can’t choose between internal and external stimulation, go for the combo vibe and have your pick of endless choices. Take a look at the infamous Rabbit Pearl, Lelo’s Ina, and Soraya or one of the many Fun Factory toys like Calla 4 or Flash Mini. When using a combo toy, though, be sure to take it slow and don’t over-stimulate yourself. If you turn everything on too fast, you’ll have to stop, rest, and start over.

The Couple Who Plays Together…

You’ve been playing with your favorite toy and found your G-spot. Now it’s time for some couple play. The We-Vibe is the hottest toy to hit the market in years. Designed to be used during — yes, I said during — sex, the We-Vibe stimulates your G-spot and your clitoris while you are making love. Amazing! Sound like too much too soon? Start with a Screaming O Wow or JIMMYJANE’s Form 3, an external vibe with a flexible touch pad that lets you (or your partner) put the vibration in just the right spot. Another favorite is the Finger Tingles, where your finger actually vibrates.

Remember that guys like a little vibration too. Take time to find your partner’s favorite spot. Explore, discover, and learn about each other’s pleasure points. Toys in the bedroom add variety, excitement, and a few giggles to your relationship. So enjoy! And, as always, don’t forget the lube.

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One Response to “Good Vibrations: Why You Need a Vibrator”

  1. On August 23, 2012 at 8:38 pm jackiespassion responded with... #

    Great article with referrals to some fantastic toys. I love sharing knowledge of toys with women who maybe don’t think they need a toy. It is like a great accessory to your love life!

    Cheers.

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